The Relational Vigilance Quick Check

A 30-second weekly pulse check

Answer honestly. Count your "no" answers to see where you stand.

Part 1: What I'm Noticing

Signals from your team

1. Have you had a one-on-one with each of your direct reports in the past 2 weeks?
Yes
No
2. When you asked "How are we doing?" this week, did anyone say something other than "fine"?
Yes
No
3. In your last SLT meeting, did anyone disagree with anyone else out loud?
Yes
No
4. Can you name one thing each of your SLT members is currently worried about?
Yes
No
5. Has anyone on your team brought you a work problem or concern in the past month?
Yes
No
6. Do you know what your team members actually think about each other?
Yes
No

Part 2: What I'm Doing

Your own habits

7. Have you asked a direct question about something that felt uncomfortable this week?
Yes
No
8. Have you named something you noticed (tension, silence, avoidance) in the past month?
Yes
No
9. When someone said "fine," did you ask a follow-up question?
Yes
No
10. Have you created space for honest conversation (not just efficient decision-making) in your SLT meetings?
Yes
No
11. Do you know what assumptions you're currently making about your team's alignment?
Yes
No
12. Have you questioned your own leadership habits in the past month?
Yes
No

Part 3: What I'm Avoiding

What you're not addressing

13. Is there a decision your team made 3+ months ago that still hasn't been implemented?
Yes
No
14. Is there someone on your SLT you've been meaning to have a difficult conversation with?
Yes
No
15. Are there rumors circulating about your team that you haven't addressed?
Yes
No
16. Is there a structural issue (reporting lines, role clarity, decision rights) you've been avoiding?
Yes
No
17. Is there someone on your team whose departure would be a relief?
Yes
No
18. Have you accepted "this is just how we work" about something that bothers you?
Yes
No
19. When a team member tells you something negative about another team member, do you say you'll address it with both of them present?
Yes
No
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"No" answers out of 19